Long distance relationships are taken as something scary, pitiable and one that is sure to fail. It is considered to be mythic and wholly negative. Sure there are ditches in an LDR but which relationship doesn’t? It is not correct to assume that an LDR can’t work or doesn’t have anything positive about it. In fact, it can actually have many benefits to its name. And to name a few, we have these super advantages of a long distance relationship that prove it to be simply great for you.
1. You are better acquainted with your partner.
When in a long distance relationship you have nothing but the countless messages and endless calls to rely on when it comes to knowing a person. While this may seem as a drawback it is in fact a boon in disguise. In an otherwise relationship when you often get to see each other, most of the dates are spent on movies and eating out together. The conversation is thus cut short and is more based on the experience that you are sharing together like how well the actress is delivering her lines or what an awful taste your seafood is having. But when it is LDR, you each share your individual experiences and views that are exclusive to just you, thus there is a better chance to know the person on the other end of the line. Besides, it is a common fact that a couple that shares more is closer.
2. You can clearly sort out your feelings of love or lust
The lack of many opportunities to see each other in person and physical affection lets your feelings get simplified and clear. You less likely tend to confuse love with lust as is usually the case in other relationships when you can’t seem to understand if it’s just his smirk that melts your heart or do you really like him. On the other hand, in an LDR, if you like a person it is not based on the way he or she dresses or looks but because of the things they like, say or do. The hidden clues of their real persona in the conversations that you two have are the key to make you like them or not. Although, this isn’t a guarantee of a long term relationship, but still it matters more than anything else.
3. You test and develop trust
Being in a relationship calls for a strong trust. When your partner is away and having fun without your arm chained through their elbow, your imagination is bound to run wild and jealousy to seep in deep. It is natural. But with no option than talking in an LDR, you are forced to bring such matters of insecurity up for discussion and learn to trust them inadvertently with time. It renders you too the status of being trustworthy by the same equation. This is what brings confidence and sense of security in the relationship.
4. You become efficient in communicating and resolving disagreements
A couple can’t stress enough on how important it is to communicate effectively in a relationship. In an LDR where body language and actions are essentially ruled out, you have practically nothing more than conversations alone to rely on to connect to your partner. Thus, you eventually learn to communicate well. In times of clashes too, when in other relationships couples depend on their behaviour and expressions to convey their thoughts and expect their partners to gauge it well, even little misunderstandings can take the shape of grand feuds. While, owing to their mastery over communication skills (and because they have no other means to convey feelings), the couples share their thoughts. This cuts down the painful process of expectation and disappointment and easily resolves the matter; not to mention how it equips them for larger challenges in person.
5. You come to value and appreciate the time you spend together
The couples who get to see their partners frequently, though unknowingly, often start taking this time together for granted. While since they get to see each other so less, the couples in a long distance relationship, fondly savour every moment they spend together, even if it may be a simple errand they run together. This sense of gratitude and sort of appreciation for the time you are together increases the happiness and makes your bond even stronger.
6. You make more memorable moments
Since you get to spend so less time together, each moment you are with your partner becomes automatically special and etches in your mind. Moreover, because of the same reason, you tend to put in greater efforts as compared to other couples, to make each moment special when you see them in person. Instead of how the usual dating goes of movies and dinner you make newer and more fun plans to stay and enjoy together, like playing tourist in your own city, taking a trip together, trying new dishes etc. Such efforts put by you not only increases affection and love between you but also gives you more stories and incidents to cherish and remember together. Also, this is what makes you want to look forward to meet your partner the next time.
7. You become more patient
Patience is a virtue. It is not just a saying but the truth. In the times of fast cash and instant noodles, patience is hard to come by but has indeed become more important now than ever. Even in relationships, patience is what that helps you to overcome frustrations and overlook minor flaws in your partner. It is what keeps your relation stress free and healthy, by allowing you to give time and space to them. LDR is by every means tailor made to practice patience in you. Waiting to discuss a matter when you meet next time or simply to see each other, is what that helps heal wounds, cool rage, resolve misunderstandings and widen insight; thus, saving your relationship a lot of damage that could otherwise may have been unavoidable.
8. You have more space for yourself
One of the biggest plus points of a long distance relationship as far as your personal growth is concerned is getting ample of time to know, cherish and live for yourself. In an LDR the time you get for yourself is enough to pursue your own interests. You can spend time reading, trying a new workout regime or hanging out with your friends instead of spending every waking moment on your phone texting or talking with your bae on Skype. It is not a way to betray your partner but to develop yourself all round and become a happier, more confident and an independent person.
9. You learn to become self-dependent
When you are in such a relationship, you have to be self dependent while tackling daily life challenges ranging from cooking meals to managing your own finances. In low times your partner sure can give you moral and emotional support but can’t pitch in his help to fix things for you. This may not sound like fun but is in fact a bonus advantage of an LDR. This is what makes you a strong and self-sufficient individual; carving your personality and in turn making your partner too admire and feel proud of you.
10. You make and strengthen your commitment
A long distance relationship is a lot of hard work. It is not easy to schedule a Skype date without feeling wistful or depressed at the thought of having to converse to an electronic box in reality when you may long the touch of your partner’s fingers entwined between yours. The fact that despite this unease when you want to make sincere efforts to keep connected and nurture this relationship, strong and fruitful, tells you just how much you want to be together. This perseverance is what makes you committed to your relationship regardless of all the hardships you face.
So, without a speck of doubt it won’t be wrong to say that long distance relationships are a test of your patience and dedication towards love. If you survive LDR, it is most likely you can survive the other challenges life tends to throw in a relationship. It is only a matter to keep practicing the golden virtues of communication, patience, trust and personal strength that you learned during this long distance relationship, even after you close the gap.
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