You have been in a relationship for quite some time now and he still has not committed to you. You may not be a paranoid girlfriend nor he may be a player but still if you haven’t heard him say those words you have so longed to hear, it may be because he is a commitment phobe.
While it is indeed a challenge for anyone to get a commitment phobe to break down his barriers and actually commit to you, it isn’t an altogether impossible task. By understanding his true psyche and playing smart and safe, you can definitely turn things around in your favor. Here are certain things you can do to naturally get commitment out of your guy:
1. Cut down on pricey dinner dates.
Show him you value the sentiments behind the dates rather than the money. Encourage him to take you out for picnics or even little homely dates for a better connection.
2. Win his mum and dad.
3. Make him feel like he is already in the zone.
Take his advice on a personal issue or ask him sometimes to get you something of household need on the way over. This will ease him slowly into the post-commitment phase, removing his fear of of the same.
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4. Adopt cool hobbies and make sure to leave him out of them.
5. Go on an unexpected vacation.
Declare one day that you are going on a vacation with a few friends and how you will have crazy fun there! He’ll get the picture of you sipping Martinis, meeting strangers and even them hitting on you and that’s what will buy him the courage to mouth those words.
6. Get out of reach.
If you have been constantly chatting and picking up his call at the first ring, STOP IT! Miss his calls, switch off your phone without a prior warning and basically keep out of his reach making him wonder what’s wrong.
7. Introduce him to your new best guy friend.
Start talking about and hanging out with a particular guy friend a lot. When he offers you to drop you back home tell him you are meeting that guy and that he’ll drop you back. In short, make him jealous!
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8. Cancel on dates for a day out with family or friends or just to be with yourself.
9. Limit the physical affection.
10. Tell him you are thinking of taking a job in another city.
11. Talk it out.
Tell him about your feelings without any drama or emotional frills and patiently listen to what he has to say too. It will clear it for you if he is serious about this relationship or it’s better to get rid of him.
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